Codependency is not easy to describe because it is so multifaceted and it can involve nearly...
If you are suffering from codependency you are not alone. Codependency is rampant in our world today and learning to acknowledge how we enmesh, enable, attach and cling to others in unhealthy ways allows us to eventually learn to reclaim our personal self-worth.
Many who suffer from codependency have grown up feeling abandoned by those they loved. When children experience abandonment, they naturally assume it is their fault they have been unable to gain the love they deserved. Codependency is a symptom of shame, a lack of self-love, and a product...
For a very long time, I was angry, frustrated, depressed, and resentful. As Melody Beattie once described, it was like the pendulum within me flew to the opposite side of people-pleasing.
Forgiving a narcissist or someone with high narcissistic traits is NOT an easy thing to do. And when you struggle with codependency, because you have a limited sense of autonomy, it is hard enough holding onto anger let alone any other emotion. Those of us who have begged narcissistic others for validation have been abused to our core. Once there is nothing left to give, anger becomes a liferaft.
By the time I figured out what was wrong was faulty programming that had lead to codependent behaviors and language patterns that were all unconscious, I was a mess. Barely holding on, I was like an infected big toe. If the wind blew, I hurt.
For years, I held onto anger and resentment and for a time, being able to connect with anger allowed me to defend myself from what seemed to be...
If you have suffered a 'mother wound' chances are you struggle with feeling alone, unworthy, and not good enough. When we feel separate from our caretakers, we can also feel separate from the self.
I hope this meditation can help soothe you back into alignment with your divine self.
All my love,
For many of us, the idea of self-love makes us feel uncomfortable. We may have no clue what self-love looks like or feels like. Some of us may even confuse the concept of selfishness with self-love. If we grew up with rigid parents, our concepts of self-love may be rigid as well. This is not our fault, however, nothing changes until something changes. We can’t change our parents but we can change the programs they helped create in our minds as they pertain to self-love.
Becoming more self-loving means we allow ourselves to become less rigid in our thinking. We are learning to allow ourselves permission to not be so perfect. Perhaps this means we don’t make our bed one morning, or we dare to travel out without make-up. Maybe instead of working 10 hours a day, we knock off early to go sit in the park and feed some birds. For others, becoming less rigid might be not hounding our kids about cleaning their rooms. It also might include deliberately choosing to give our...
It is so wonderful to feel heard, loved, and respected. We all want it, but why are so many of us unable to achieve this amazing standard in our relationships?
If you come from a less than perfect childhood, you may have never felt understood and today, you may want more than anything to be heard. Unfortunately, many of us from imperfect homes tend to attract partners who are very similar to the people who wounded us. The brain prefers the familiar and the personality feels attracted to what it knows. This is great news if you came from an awesome home, but if not, it is time to up your consciousness.
If you are someone who tends to make excuses for bad behavior, or if you are someone who tends to have become desensitized to other people’s abuse, chances are you probably never felt heard in childhood. You may still be wanting and expecting the people you love to hear you.
If this sounds like you, it is time YOU start to see YOU!
Begin by taking an inventory of how often you...
I had no clue I was NOT awake when my mind was swirling and my body was failing. Every breath hurt and every step felt like the weight of the world was on my back when I was living below the veil of consciousness.
And if you had told me, "Lisa, you're asleep--you can wake up now--you can honor your self, live your life, make healthy decisions, end toxic relationships, stop caring what other people think about you, and live a life of peace, calm, confidence, spirituality, abundance, joy, fun, and fulfillment" I would have said, "Girl, you're batshit crazy.
Today, I know better, but that is only because I learned to appreciate the power of surrendering to the idea that THOUGHTS DO BECOME THINGS--and that MOST people are freaking ASLEEP, UNCONSCIOUS, living from the viewpoint of the pain-body or the WOUNDED EGO!
Lions and tigers and bears--OH MY!
It is not our fault the mind is both conscious and unconscious at the same time. Learning to appreciate that the mind can be unconscious...
When your mind is wired to survive because your home life was unpredictable, unsafe, and painful, your body cannot thrive. You will breathe, walk, talk, think, and go on with your day, but your immune system will suffer. The human body is NOT designed to live in a chronic state of stress. YES--emotional and mental stress can hamper the immune system.
The goal is to heal the reactive mind and to teach the brain that life can be amazing and that you can learn to trust yourself again. Learning to confront limiting beliefs, codependency, controlling behaviors, denial, and embracing our wounds rather than running from them can help our brains come out of survival mode.
You deserve a nonthreatened brain!
A huge THANK YOU to Michele for her beautiful testimonial.
I am sure many young moms can relate to feeling overwhelmed by trauma, codependency, work, school and the day to day responsibilities of life, especially when our spiritual toolbox is fairly empty.
When we have not been nurtured, it is all but impossible to nurture the self. Add a few narcissistic, abusive, toxic relationships in the mix, and it is not difficult to see how heavy a life experience can become. We can all relate to how much more difficult life becomes when we add a child or two as well.
Lions and tigers and bears OH FREAKING MY!
When we do not know HOW TO address an overwhelming emotion, what choices do we have?
We suppress, deny, avoid, react, dissociate, fawn, work, yell, and do whatever we can to manage the tension or the anxiety that shows up when we are unable to find relief from the feelings we are feeling.
And that is NOT our fault.
Luckily, there is a way out, although the road can be bumpy at times,...