Codependent Love Addiction--Attracted to a Narcissist

  • Do you struggle with feeling attracted to a narcissist?
  • Are you codependent?
  • Do you seek other people's approval?
  • Have you been raised by people who ignored you, minimized you, or abused you?

If you can figure out why you feel attracted to a narcissist, then you can figure out to stop feeling attracted to a narcissist.

Yep, it's true!

For years I chased after the approval of my ex husband and even when I was a single women, I still attracted narcissistic men.  

Until I broke the CODENDENT CODE.

I AM ENOUGH--I ALWAYS WAS ENOUGH--IT WASN'T ME--IT WAS MY PROGRAMMING.

The REAL me didn't want to be attracted to a narcissist.

The REAL me didn't want to suffer from narcissistic abuse.

The REAL me didn't want to feel addicted to someone who was cruel, vindictive, manipulative, condescending, and suffered from a distorted and superior view of himself.

NO, the real me wanted to be loved and the real me also wanted TO love.

I so hope you enjoy this video I created to help inspire...

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The Voice of Childhood Trauma

  • Do you remember how you felt when you were being abused, abandoned, neglected and ignored? 
  • Do you remember the comments that were made inside your own mind when you were being abused?

All children assume blame and responsibility for how they are treated as children.

 

Our simple brains trick us into forgetting what it was like when we were small. Our brains are designed to keep us in the here and the now. We focus on the minutia of the current day and rarely take the time to remember how we felt when we were small, powerless, and unable to speak up for ourselves.

Now is an illusion. Now is a blend of every moment and breath of our yesterdays. The future is an illusion too unless you can awaken and begin to understand that how your mind operates today is the result of what happened to you when you were the most impressionable.

When children are being abused, they don't think, "Wow, my parents are out of control here. Mom is drinking again and dad is full of rage because...

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Codependency Symptoms and Healing from Narcissistic Abuse FREE Webinar

Are you tired of worrying more about how others feel about you than what you feel about you?

Would you like to stop being CODEPENDENT upon others?

Wouldn't it be awesome to LEARN how to FEEL your feelings and set boundaries according to the guidance of your AUTHENTIC SELF?

If so, please take advantage of this opportunity to learn more about narcissistic abuse, codependency, and how to heal from the wounds from the past so you can FINALLY feel;

  • comfortable in your own skin
  • like your life is your own
  • as if you can finally live your life your way
  • like you can tell your truth without needing to worry about what other people think or what they will say or do
  • ready to set boundaries
  • like you can leave dysfunctional relationships behind
  • like you are living in alignment with your true purpose
  • like you really are ENOUGH

Narcissistic parents destroy a child's ability to be able to connect to the authentic self and that is NOT their fault.

The effects of narcissistic...

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Children of Narcissistic Parents

It is NOT natural to turn against the self. We must be taught, conditioned, and programmed to believe we are unworthy.

The worst thing that could happen to a human being, is that they become programmed to believe, they are not enough.

When a mind has become convinced that the SELF is irrelevant, the DIVINE human/spiritual/energetic/vibrational vehicle CANNOT operate well.

If rain was battery acid, in spite of the POTENTIAL that is magically encapsulated in GAIA, the earth would die AND that would NOT be the EARTH'S fault. Something OUTSIDE of GAIA has disrupted the DIVINE plan. And so it is with us--wounded ADULT CHILDREN from neglectful homes. It is NOT us--it is what happened TO us. It is NOT us--it is the PROGRAMMING that our young psyches were exposed to on a consistent basis that has taught us--we are not enough.

The ONLY way to heal is to find our way back to LOVE!

May you be BLESSED this year with the COURAGE to learn how to LOVE THE SELF in spite of how deep your...

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AGING NARCISSISTIC PARENT

Do you have an aging Narcissistic Parent?

Do you find that their symptoms are worsening over time?

If so, you're not alone.

Narcissists who have learned to feel in control by controlling and manipulating others, who, as they age, begin to comprehend that they no longer have the power over others or of life they once had, can exhibit worsening symptoms as they age.

Please ejnoy this video on narcissistic aging parents. It is a personal account of what I am going through at the moment within my own family of origin.

https://youtu.be/3OS79GDqnsI

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Aging Narcissistic Parent

Do you have an aging Narcissistic Parent?

Do you find that their symptoms are worsening over time?

If so, you're not alone.

Narcissists who have learned to feel in control by controlling and manipulating others, who, as they age, begin to comprehend that they no longer have the power over others or of life they once had, can exhibit worsening symptoms as they age.

Please ejnoy this video on narcissistic aging parents. It is a personal account of what I am going through at the moment within my own family of origin.

https://youtu.be/3OS79GDqnsI

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Suicide and Adult Children of Alcoholics

Since embracing the idea that my life and all its turmoil was directly linked to the alcoholism that had plagued my family for generations, incrementally my life has gotten better and better. Up until my full acknowledgment of just how deeply my wounds ran--and more specifically why my wounds ran so deeply, incrementally my life had continued to spiral out of control. When I used to hear the term 'Adult Child of an Alcoholic' it never phased me to consider that I or my siblings, or my parents for that matter could have ever been associated with such a title. In my fragile bubble, included blinders disguised as denial and emotional chaos. I could see nothing but my own victim-hood--then.

It has taken me years to unravel the syndrome that infested my soul like bees. It was not an easy shield to lay down; the one that protected me from believing that there was anything wrong with me. In my world, everyone else had the problem--but me. Me? I was miserable because someone didn't do this...

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Adult Children of Alcoholics--And The Dry Home--Wounding WIthout The Alcohol

Children from homes run by alcoholics are children who are not having their developmental needs met consistently.

If you wanted to build a skyscraper that you knew would last hundreds of years, much time, effort, thought, care, and diligence would go into nurturing that project. The reality is, people research buying cars, shopping for insurance and building skyscrapers more than they do on how to raise children. In this society raising children is considered a no-brainer. And yet in spite of the overwhelming evidence that clearly indicates that our societies children are in trouble, we continue to fail at getting to the root of the true issues. Generally, parents clearly have no idea what the hell they are doing.

I was raised in what is considered a 'dry home', meaning--my parents were not obvious alcoholics. In fact, I never saw my mother drink--ever, and only once was I aware my father was drunk, although he drank beer or wine almost every night after work.

My home looked...

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Bulimia and the ACA

Eating issues are symptoms of something much deeper. Let's stop calling it a disorder.

Dysfunctional homes come in all shapes and sizes. Contrary to popular belief, DH's are not exclusive to projects and graffiti-riddled neighborhoods. In fact, DH's are sometimes the neatest houses on the block. They often are two-parent homes with fancy cars in the driveway. Dysfunctional caretakers can be athletes, lawyers, CPA's and neurosurgeons. And this folks, is part of why so many children from DH's are bulimic, anorexic, overeaters, and exercise compulsively. When the dysfunctional home is hard to notice--the children absorb the angst from the home--and act it out in subjective forms.

Their lives are mirrors to their family dynamics. Just as an outwardly lean, blonde cheerleader would appear to be happy--inside she may be riddled with angst--just as her home--may look perfect--it may not be. The key is the contrast between what the child sees--and what the child feels.

Although it is...

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Codependency


 

Anything that we experience within the mental and or emotional body must manifest in the physical body. We can never separate our emotional or mental experience from our physical bodies--as all beings are the sum of that which is experienced on every level of existence.

Codependent relationships are maddening--as it is a dynamic that sucks emotional and mental bodies in like vacuums.

One minute a codependent being can be laughing and enjoying the sound of a child's laughter, and the next--he/she can notice an unease in their partner's facial expression and suddenly feel sucked into a dark hole mentally and emotionally.

One glance--one glare--one frown--one shrug of a shoulder--one movement--one word--one sentence--is all it takes for a codependent being to fill with dread.

When you are codependent--you--and your stability is not the priority.

Like a prisoner sentenced to live life according to the rules set by others--codependents play by the rules of others--and lose...

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