According to Addiction Treatment Magazine's Article:
Alcoholism is a scourge that affects all members of the family, not just the alcoholic. The damage is pernicious and inescapable, and has long-term negative consequences for all concerned. An estimated 27.8 million children in the United States are affected by or exposed to a family alcohol problem – and preliminary research suggests that more than 11 million of them are under the age of 18. These numbers do not include children who are affected by or exposed to other drug problems. What happens to these children as they grow up? Are they doomed to repeat the pattern of alcohol abuse they see in their alcoholic parent? Or are they fighting to be free?
Incest and battering are common in alcoholic families. An estimated 30 percent of father-daughter incest cases and 75 percent of domestic violence cases involve a family member who is an alcoholic. COAs are more likely to become targets of family abuse...
Codependents have been brainwashed to believe that their feelings, wants, needs, and desires do not count.
As children, many of us were taught to stuff our emotions. Rocking the boat pissed the adults in our lives off--so stuff we did.
What we could never have known then is, that all that stuffing of negative energy--actually caused energetic roots to grow from our root chakras--into the time and place where we were receiving those emotional injuries.
To compound the issue of traumatic roots, because this is a like attracting universe--our need for outer validation--attracts others who need to be able to control the mind and hearts of others for their own immature ego gratification.
Wounded codependents attract beings who have sadly learned to get their needs met through the conquering or the controlling of others. Codependents similarly get their immature needs met by catering to others.
These two equally immature mentally, emotionally and spiritual beings attract one...
Adult children of alcoholics are everywhere. It is estimated that 1 in 4 children have had the misfortune of growing up in a sloppy alcoholic home. That is an outrageous number, and maybe instead of attacking cigarette companies, we as a society could possibly start zeroing in on what is truly wreaking havoc on our society and especially our children.
Okay, enough brewing over 'crap' I cannot change single handily and on to the business of self empowerment for we ACoA's as well as Grandchildren of Alcoholics--and heck--let's face it--this kind of recovery work is for ANYONE who was raised by parents who did a crappy job teaching you how to freakin' love your SELF.
Dear One--recovery IS possible. I know because I have done it. I am living a peaceful life. Gone are the runaway like thoughts in my head, that were once drizzled with self doubt, self hate, self criticism and alike. No longer is my focus attuned to what is happening outside of me. I no longer worry who likes me...