The 12 Part Advanced Audio Series on Codependency Recovery
Transform Your Relationship With Yourself and Others
Twelve audio sessions. One essential teaching in each one, with the insight and the tool to go with it, so you can begin applying it to your relationships straight away.
This is for the one who is ready to understand what has been running their relationships silently in the background and is ready to start doing something about it now.
Softer reactions. Clearer communication. More room for closeness, and more tolerance for the vulnerability that real intimacy asks of us. Yours to download and keep for life.
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You Are Not Bad at Relationships
You may have noticed that closeness costs you something. That you go quiet when a conversation gets difficult, or agree to things you did not want, or feel your whole body reorganise itself the moment someone's mood shifts.
You may seek approval, put your own needs last, and live with a low hum of worry about disappointing the people you love. You may want real intimacy and find that when it gets close enough to be real, something in you pulls back.
None of that is a character flaw. Every one of those responses was a strategy that worked once, in a place where it kept you safe. They were learned early, below conscious awareness, and they did not retire when you grew up. They simply came with you into every relationship since.
Which means the way forward is not trying harder to be a better partner, friend, or daughter. It is seeing the pattern clearly enough to work with it.
It's not you. It's your programming. And programming can always be rewritten.
Twelve audio sessions you download and keep, each one carrying a single teaching and the tool that goes with it.
- Where these patterns came from, and how early experience shapes the way an adult relates to the people they love
- How to be less reactive in the moment, and what to do with the wave when it rises
- How to feel your feelings and say them out loud, without abandoning yourself to keep the peace
- How to stop people-pleasing and acting as though you have no needs of your own
- How to set a boundary that holds, and survive the guilt that follows the first few
- How to build interdependence rather than codependence, where two people stay themselves and still choose each other
- How to sit with the vulnerability that real intimacy asks of you, and let someone close without pulling back
- How to recognise the fear of abandonment when it surfaces, so it stops making your decisions for you
Imagine this
Someone you love is disappointed in you. You notice it, and you stay where you are. Their feelings are theirs. Yours are yours. The line between you holds.
You say what you actually think in a difficult conversation, and the sky does not fall. If a little guilt arrives afterward, you recognise it, and it passes.
You let someone see a part of you that you would normally keep back, and instead of the old urge to retreat, you stay a beat longer. Then a beat longer than that.
You have a whole conversation without carrying anything home that was never yours.
And you are still entirely yourself. That is the part nobody tells you is possible.
Twelve sessions. One teaching at a time. Yours to download and keep for life.
Get Instant AccessMeet Lisa A. Romano
I am a certified life coach, a meditation teacher, and a bestselling author. The Road Back to Me reached number one in its category, and my books have been named among the best ever written on codependency. I have written for Psychology Today on narcissistic parenting.
In 2015 I created the 12 Week Breakthrough Coaching Program, which is now Level One of the Above the Veil Method. Since then it has been taken by people from their twenties to their eighties, including therapists who wanted the work for themselves.
I built this audio series for a different person. For the one who is not ready to commit to twelve structured weeks, but who is ready to understand what has been running their relationships, and to start applying it now.
I teach what I had to learn the hard way. I was the invisible child of two adult children of alcoholics, and it took me nearly four decades to take my power back. Today I am happily married, and I wake up eager each morning to help adult children find the love within, so they can finally let the love in.
What This Audio Series Will Do
01
Show you where these patterns began, in childhood experiences that were never your fault, and how they still shape the way you relate to the people you love.
02
Help you work through the shame underneath, the quiet belief that you are somehow too much or not enough, which is the thing that makes closeness feel unsafe.
03
Give you something to reach for in the moment a boundary is needed, so you are not improvising while your heart is pounding.
04
Teach you to soften your reactions, so a difficult conversation does not have to end with someone withdrawing and someone apologising for things they did not do.
05
Help you build a sense of yourself that does not depend on another person confirming it, which is where genuine autonomy begins.
06
Show you what interdependence actually looks like. Two people who stay themselves and still choose each other, rather than one dissolving into the other.
07
Help you notice the fear of abandonment when it surfaces, so it stops quietly deciding how close you are willing to let anyone come.
What people say about these sessions
"This is so wonderfully expressed. Such clarity, such metaphors, so skillfully communicated. Lisa--you are amazing! Hugs and gratitude."
— Ingrid
"I really like the 1,2,3 process. I can now see how I was staying in the unconscious making fight or flight decisions without even knowing or understanding what I was feeling and why. I, like you, just want peace - this practice gives me a chance to organize myself before I communicate erratically with a set goal so that others want to make peace with me as well. I have gathered so much from the first three parts that I need to take a break and digest it all. Thank you Lisa, for sharing all of this. You have a true gift."
— Mel
What is inside the 12 Part Advanced Audio Series on Codependency Recovery
Twelve sessions, each one carrying a single teaching and the tool that goes with it. You can download every session the moment you enroll, and they are yours to keep for life.
- Part 1: Introduction to Codependency
- Part 2: Pain and Pleasure, the automatic and autonomic connections
- Part 3: The 1-2-3 Process
- Part 4: The Quantum Time Line
- Part 5: The Power of Self Empathy
- Part 6: The Secret of Accountability
- Part 7: Breaking the Addiction to External Validation
- Part 8: The Power of Letting Go
- Part 9: Facing All of Your Fears
- Part 10: Hacking the Subconscious Paradigms
- Part 11: Life Balance Brings Peace
- Part 12: Ten Codependency Commandments
Your enrollment also includes access to the members-only forum.
Please keep in mind
This is not a quick fix, and I would rather say so now than have you find out later.
These sessions are built to be listened to more than once. Research suggests the brain changes through repetition rather than insight alone, which is why the tools inside are meant to be practised in real conversations, with real people, until the new response is the one that arrives first.
Understanding a pattern takes an afternoon. Changing it takes returning to the same teaching until your nervous system believes it.
Ready When You Are, Dear One
Twelve sessions to help you find the love within, so you can finally let the love in.
The 12 Part Advanced Audio Series
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"Dear Lisa, this audio is so empowering, I will be adding it to my morning routine of meditation, setting daily intentions & Journaling. I'm so grateful to you for all your beautiful wisdom, insight & helpful exercises- that not only work but are enjoyable, empowering! You truly are a blessing & 'I bow to the light in you' Namaste!"
— Gina
"Yes! A practical strategy I can implement now. I just wrote out my example from an argument that took place the other night of how it would look using the 1,2,3 process. That includes less reactivity from me because that is something I can and will learn to control. I love the idea of letting the other person know how you feel and move on. It's freeing to know I don't have to go beyond that and overexplain, overanalyze, etc. This process is power and wisdom our previously codependent minds never knew we could access. Thank you"
— John
Frequently Asked Questions
Can I begin right away?
Are results guaranteed?
Can I use this with my partner?
How is this different from the 12 Week Breakthrough Coaching Program?
Will this help me stop attracting people who take more than they give?
I am in CoDA. Will this work alongside my 12 Step program?
This is for you if
- You want to feel your feelings and say them out loud, rather than swallowing them to keep the peace
- You want to say no without the guilt that usually follows for days
- You want closeness that does not cost you access to yourself
- You want to understand what has been running your relationships, and start applying it now
- You are not ready for twelve structured weeks, but you are ready to begin
Then this is where you start.
"I can't thank you enough for this work, Lisa. Getting past the symptoms and into solutions is so empowering." — Maria
Dear One, you are not broken. You adapted.
It's not you. It's your programming. And programming can always be rewritten.
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